peculiar

Recently not only have I been asking myself these questions but I hear a few people have been asking these questions too, either about myself or the people surrounding me. Questions about defining yourself.

There are multiple ways of tackling this, however we spend almost all our lives attempting to define ourselves, how people view us and how we want to be seen ourselves (ideal ego and ego ideal malarkey). However at the end of the day we will never find the answer, we are evidently who we are.

The older I get the more I find that characteristics are just ideologies made up to create certain statistics about one another; but to one person the level or meaning of those characteristics can be vastly comparable to another's definition of it.

For a while I fell into the trap and began questioning who I was, where I was headed and what I wanted and kept falling into the loop that I knew I don't know and never will. Which is when it hit me, who says I need to define myself? Who says that I should need and have to know what I want or what I want to do with myself? They say without focus there is no life but I say I'm just enjoying life. You could say I'm reckless and immature for thinking this way, but then again... When did it matter what you nor I think?

peace, k x

for him.

I've come across a little brainwave recently that men, in fact, put a darn lot more into things than us women give them credit for.

Ok, I understand that we're the ones who will 'loose' out on the most should anything happen, reproductively therefore would like to be respected and treated better. But where is the line?

Ask yourself ladies, for everything you expect from a guy - would you really do it for him? Would you sit and think out and plan a perfect date for him, really listen and care about the things he talks to you about, monitor his every move and habits. It just seems that a lot of the time us women expect a guy to do all of these things yet unknowingly do nothing at all.

Appreciate him a little more ladies, if he's even putting any effort in at all, make sure it's appreciated, because it's probably that little more effort than you're doing.

k x

Put them to bed.

Chivalry, is this a dying concept? I'm not sure whether I'm a kid who grew up in the 90's listening to cheesy pop and stories of fairy tales and listening to sweet nothings, growing up like a naive fool.

Is it wrong to want a love that has true emotion and not like the other brainwashed materialistic kids one the streets these days?

I'm not sure if it's just me anymore, but one thing that really catches my attention in a guy is his chivalry, it's such a rare thing these days that if you ever do come across a gentleman ladies, don't take him for granted.

Guys: pull out her chair, open her door, tell her she's beautiful, be a sir, she'll love you for it.

k x

The two step flow.

Now before I begin, I know I'm going to be attacked by people saying"

I'm responsible for what I say, not for what you understand

On the contrary, these two practically go hand in hand. For actions you take and the words you speak, once spoken and/or interpreted, cannot be revoked. In today's society many people have found the power of blogging and microblogging to begin to, in effect, type before they think things through.

Most, of which, is to spread negativity of others. In which is the topic that I'm tackling today. For that moment of 'relief' and vented out anger, you should step back and begin to look at the bigger picture, begin to see what you do and what you say and how it reflects on you as a person, either directly or indirectly, how people would start seeing you as a result of them.

You'll soon see that the more you begin to think positively - everything seems to be a lot easier.

it's true, you know.

x

Fairytales

I'm not sure if I'm being naive on this matter, but I often when I hear people say "we're not the same, it's not going to work" as complete and utter bulls excrement.

This phrase should just be replaced with I don't care enough to put any effort in this / I'm too selfish to consider your thoughts and needs as well as my own.

The reason for this is, no-one is exacltly the same, and no-one has complete interest in everything one another does. This is exactly why things are so 'sweet' at the beginning because you don't care about the flaws, and you're willing to put in the effort for one another to find a middle ground because that's what you want. Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that what relationships are about? Finding a middle ground? Communicating with eachother? Compromising for one another?

Soon, when things aren't as great as they seem in your mind than it is in real life issues like 'incompatibility' comes in. Well you can take your sorry excuse and put it where the sun doesn't shine, because for all I care grow a pair and say it straight why don't you?

Lame excuses are lame.

Have you encountered any lame excuses like this? Gets right on my milk makers when people are too cowardly to suck it up and say things straight.

sorry it's been a while
k x

disclaimer: this isn't aimed at anyone specifically just the topic aggrevates me

I bet you shower naked, slut.

Wording and interpretation. Todays topic.

It's truly bewildering this thing called language and communication how what is being communicated can be changed in just a change of tone of voice or emphasis on different words heck, even choice of words.

"I never said she stole my wallet"

You see, by stressing different words of this statement alone can give it about 7 different meanings together. Alongside with an over used term of "Will you marry me" or "I love you"can be drastically changed by saying something 'off topic' like "I want to grow old with you"

Communication, what's being communicated, what's between the lines, what's being interpreted. We find ourselves constantly trying to analyse and pull apart what one another are truly saying, maybe even twisting words to manipulate others. I bet a lot of you may even think what's the point of me typing this, what are my motives - like usual it's just something to think about.

On a lighter note, a leap year day has just been, it comes only once every four years so I hope you all spent it wisely!

love is

That's a funny little concept - love.
It's in the media everyday what we see, what we hear, everyone around us, is based around 'love'.

We find ourselves spending a lifetime finding such love and keeping it, hunting for such a perfect love that we see in the movies. But, the thing about it is that as we grow older, the more we realise that we know so little about 'love', all these 'rules' and 'steps' slowly begin to deteriorate and mean nothing. It is only when we learn more about ourselves, and about each other, is when we find this funny thing we call 'love', that you end up defining your own little 'rules' and 'steps' in which begin to make it that something special - which people go on to make more movies, songs and stories about.

They say you should not loose the moon while you're busy counting the stars. So here's to letting go of all the ideals in your head and learning more about yourself, and others.

here's to learning to love