peculiar

Recently not only have I been asking myself these questions but I hear a few people have been asking these questions too, either about myself or the people surrounding me. Questions about defining yourself.

There are multiple ways of tackling this, however we spend almost all our lives attempting to define ourselves, how people view us and how we want to be seen ourselves (ideal ego and ego ideal malarkey). However at the end of the day we will never find the answer, we are evidently who we are.

The older I get the more I find that characteristics are just ideologies made up to create certain statistics about one another; but to one person the level or meaning of those characteristics can be vastly comparable to another's definition of it.

For a while I fell into the trap and began questioning who I was, where I was headed and what I wanted and kept falling into the loop that I knew I don't know and never will. Which is when it hit me, who says I need to define myself? Who says that I should need and have to know what I want or what I want to do with myself? They say without focus there is no life but I say I'm just enjoying life. You could say I'm reckless and immature for thinking this way, but then again... When did it matter what you nor I think?

peace, k x

for him.

I've come across a little brainwave recently that men, in fact, put a darn lot more into things than us women give them credit for.

Ok, I understand that we're the ones who will 'loose' out on the most should anything happen, reproductively therefore would like to be respected and treated better. But where is the line?

Ask yourself ladies, for everything you expect from a guy - would you really do it for him? Would you sit and think out and plan a perfect date for him, really listen and care about the things he talks to you about, monitor his every move and habits. It just seems that a lot of the time us women expect a guy to do all of these things yet unknowingly do nothing at all.

Appreciate him a little more ladies, if he's even putting any effort in at all, make sure it's appreciated, because it's probably that little more effort than you're doing.

k x

Put them to bed.

Chivalry, is this a dying concept? I'm not sure whether I'm a kid who grew up in the 90's listening to cheesy pop and stories of fairy tales and listening to sweet nothings, growing up like a naive fool.

Is it wrong to want a love that has true emotion and not like the other brainwashed materialistic kids one the streets these days?

I'm not sure if it's just me anymore, but one thing that really catches my attention in a guy is his chivalry, it's such a rare thing these days that if you ever do come across a gentleman ladies, don't take him for granted.

Guys: pull out her chair, open her door, tell her she's beautiful, be a sir, she'll love you for it.

k x